I am making more of a concerted effort this holiday to gather my sons together. In the past, I leaned towards playing the holiday down, as I have so many times in the past. But this year, I feel we all need to look at each other as just men, and try to relate this time, instead of just all the regular amenities associated with seeing and greeting a loved one whom you have not seen in a while.
Of course, I will be attempting to "reel" them in on my concept without them knowing. I think the slightest glimpse that I might be trying to get us to communicate closer, would be met with...."Dad's getting corny now".I have to say that when I write (in words that I can see), my gut begins to crunch as I am jolted to reality that I have 3 sons, not just 2. And to contiually leave my third son out of any of my equations in my life, is always an uneasy guiltful feeling that shows up every now and then.
I hope that works out for you... what happened to the third son?
ReplyDeleteHi Classic,
ReplyDeleteI have 2 sons from my second ex with. She bailed out on my while she was pregnant, and took our 5 year old with her. During her disappearance (could not find her or my son for a month) the baby was born. He is alive and well at 15 years of age, yet she has not allowed him to visit with me in 15 years. Everytime my 5 year old would get in the car for my weekends and mid week visits, my youngest son was never sent to the car. This continued for all the years until my oldest son could drive, and I no longer had to pick him up for visits. Classic, I did fight early on for my youngest son to join us on all my visits, but was met with adversity, and no police support. So for the sake of my 5 year olds mentality, I ended any conflict from what should be a "no-brainer"----sons need fathers.
My youngest is 15 now, and I have sent him letters, (through his older brother,lest they be destroyed)letting him know that I have always loved him, and that my doors are always open to him , should he decide that now is the time to make his own decisions. We'll see what happens. His older brother is reading and reviewing the letter (I always get his approval about its contents) and will hopefully be placed in my 15 year old's hand.
Here's the real drama to this story. My 15 year old son, Jake, has Tourettes Syndrome.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/tourette%27s+syndrome .
Thanks for asking. Sorry for the long answer